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AnnaSophia Robb: I’ve got into fashion.
AnnaSophia Robb “cares more about fashion” since she landed the role of a young Carrie Bradshaw.
The actress portrays fashionista Carrie Bradshaw in the TV series, which is based on the Sex and the City character’s younger days.
The 19-year-old says hanging around the wardrobe area on set has proved fruitful for spicing up her own style.”I’ve started to care a little more about fashion,” AnnaSophia admitted to Us Weekly. “I’m starting to wear a lot more tights now. Carrie wears a lot of tights… and I’m starting to wear more patterns. Carrie doesn’t really have a specific colour – it’s more layering of different patterns and textures and eras together.”

AnnaSophia described her personal style as being more like conservative dresser Miranda from the Sex and the City series.The pretty blonde does mirror Carrie’s eclectic fashion tastes when the occasion requires something special.

“It kinda depends on the day – on how much energy I have to put into it,” she explained. “On New Year’s I wore a big poufy white skirt, which is very Carrie… but most of the time I just like wearing stuff that’s comfortable: boots and patterned jeans and big, comfy sweaters.”

AnnaSophia recently admitted the role has also had an effect on her hair. She permed her locks to portray the character and loves having wild tresses.
“I love the curly hair,” she gushed last month. “Jen [Johnson, hair stylist] does my hair on the show and I was like, ‘Ooh that’s a good look for next season.’”

My husband has signed up to online dating sites.

I’VE only been married two years and I’ve discovered my husband has registered himself on online dating websites.

I am 38 and live in South Africa. My husband is 43. When I confronted him about it he said that he didn’t think we would make it through our first year of marriage and that’s why he went looking for someone else.

This is his second marriage and apparently he pulled these stunts with his first wife as well.

Friends warned me about him and now I’m wondering if they were right. He has children from his first marriage and had the snip before we met. I desperately want kids but he won’t have it reversed.

I own everything in our marriage – the house, the car. Is he just using me as a meal ticket? Seeing that stuff on his phone was the last straw for me.
DEIDRE SAYS

Your needs and feelings certainly seem to come low down on his list of priorities but breaking up with him doesn’t mean that Mr Perfect wanting marriage and children will necessarily turn up soon.

It’s not long since you two thought you loved one another enough to get married, so give it one more shot.

Tell your husband you are thinking of ending your marriage and that he needs to make some major changes if you two are to stay together – come off the dating websites and be open about his internet use, and at least talk to you about having the baby you long for.
If he’s not prepared to make a serious effort for your sake, or you feel talking gets you nowhere, arrange to see a relationship counsellor.

Distance, hardly a barrier in marriage.

A popular saying goes, ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’, according to which the bond of intimacy is imagined to grow stronger with distance.

However, is it a realistic thought in the context of married couples who live away from each other in different cities, in some cases different countries, due to the nature of their jobs?

We live in an age where inflation is forever on the rise; standard of living is way higher than just making ends meet, and demands always manage to surpass the supply of monthly pay cheques. Situations such as these compel urban married couples to take up professions that guarantee a fulfilling monetary figure at the end of each month. So much so, that some jobs require travelling to far off places for prolonged periods. Therefore it wouldn’t be inappropriate to say that the primary motivation why several couples stay away from each other is their respective careers and financial responsibilities, the other secondary reason being advancement in education. Sumeet Singh, a communication specialist, was a little sceptical about taking up the training batch in UK because that meant he’d have to stay away from Pooja, his wife, for almost one and a half years. “We had recently got married and I wasn’t sure if it was the wisest decision. However, my wife was convinced that I should go and it was on her insistence that I signed up for the project. I stayed in London for about 18 months and her indefinite support was what kept me going,” he shares.

Having to live away from your spouse is not so uncommon in the present times and physical distance should not be a barrier in achieving common goals. Agrees Dr Sameer Malhotra, Senior Psychologist and Psychotherapist, “The approach with which one tackles the relationship matters the most in such cases. The kind of efforts each partner puts in to avoid misunderstandings of any kind is of paramount importance. Small gestures like occasional gifts, regular calls, and frequent visits (if possible) ensure in maintaining a healthy relationship.”